April 24, 2013
One day shy of a month...
Two women entered and gave their condolences. As tenderly as they could, they wheeled her out of the house and down the walk.
Then, in a flash, they were gone.
One day shy of a month later, my dad drove away with my brother-in-law to begin the next adventure of his life. How grateful I am for the three and a half years we had together.
But they're both gone. No more puzzles, early dinners, daily jokes, conversations, rushing home because they were alone. No more: "Stop wrestling, you'll upset gramma", "shhh, grampa is napping". "Take the darts to the family room".
Boundaries that kept me on track with meals, cleaning, caring for their daily needs...are gone.
Boundaries: borders that kept our life in sync with theirs. Gone.
Is there a button to push that will release the emotions that I should be having? Since his leaving, there have been none to speak of. Perhaps, by His grace and His timing, He (or maybe it's me that) will slowly allow the valve to open and tears will flow and I will be able to wrap my head and heart around what is happening. But do I really want to push that button?
Today was my fifty-first birthday. I did not want a celebration. NO CAKE. I didn't mind it when the boys surprised me with a plate of cookies topped with a tea light to celebrate my day. It actually blew me away. And having all the singing birthday calls was soooo special, my husband making subs and cooking a pizza, our son, Josh and his family lavish me with cards and a gift card to Half Price Books was delightful...but I just did not want to make a big deal about today. I really don't even want to go down the road of asking, "Why not?" Just not ready to let the valve be opened.
Maybe we'll celebrate next year.
Life is good.
Don't get me wrong.
I love my life.
I love my family.
I love how closely God is holding me in His arms.
I feel His nearness, especially when I fall off to sleep. Mostly when I awake and raise my arms to the ceiling and tell him I love Him and I blow Him a kiss. This has become a habit I wish I'd have started a LONG TIME AGO.
I know He is walking through this with me.\
Yet, when it comes down to it, I have to decide if I am willing to let myself grieve...and WHAT DOES GRIEVING REALLY LOOK LIKE AND WHEN WILL IT BE OVER?
I'm really not too concerned with the answers as much as I am with knowing Him more intimately, because, when it's all over, He'll still be there, holding me.
He'll never let me go.
Of this I am certain.
So, if I ramble...just let me.
I may contradict myself.
I'll get through this.